How to Support a Friend Who Has Lost a Pet

When someone we love loses their animal companion, it can be hard to know what to say or do. Pet loss grief is often overlooked in our culture, but for the guardian, it can be as deep and painful as losing any family member.

Your care, presence, and acknowledgment can mean more than you realize. Here are some thoughtful ways to support a friend through the loss of their beloved pet.

Acknowledge Their Loss Openly

Don’t avoid the subject or stay silent. A simple, heartfelt message, “I’m so sorry you’ve lost [pet’s name]. I know how much they meant to you”, lets your friend know their grief is seen.

Reflection: What words of comfort would feel most healing to you if you were in their place?

Listen More Than You Speak

Grief doesn’t need fixing, it needs space. Offer a listening ear without rushing them toward “feeling better.” Sometimes the greatest gift is simply saying, “I’m here if you want to talk about them.”

Reflection: Can you create space for your friend’s grief without trying to solve it?

Share Memories of Their Pet

Mentioning a favorite memory or trait shows that their pet’s life mattered to more than just them. It also helps keep the bond alive through shared stories. Ask your friend to share some of their favorite memories of their pet.

Reflection: What memory of their pet brings a smile to your heart?

Offer Practical Help

Grief can make everyday tasks overwhelming. Bringing a meal, running errands, or helping with other pets in the household can be a real relief.

Reflection: What is one small, practical thing you could do that would lighten their load?

Remember Important Dates

Mark the anniversary of their pet’s passing, or send a note on what would have been their pet’s birthday. These simple gestures remind your friend that their loss hasn’t been forgotten.

Reflection: How could you gently honor their pet’s memory alongside them?

Walking Beside Them

Supporting a grieving friend doesn’t require perfect words, it simply requires presence, compassion, and thoughtfulness. Even small acts can ease the loneliness of loss and remind them that love continues in friendship and understanding.